| What Turns Women On! Some Research Into What Attracts Women Sexually In Men This material is the product of research into 200 women, who responded to a questionnaire about what they find attractive in men....The main groups of responses were (click on the link to go to that section):
Physical Appearance - 3 Lucille is twenty, and lives in Orlando, Florida. "When I was about sixteen, someone had told me that you can tell the size of a man's cock from the size of his nose, and from then on, I went mad on noses. It was the first thing I looked at, and then I would look down at his bulge, if he had one. If he had a big nose and his bulge was promising, too, I'd get turned on in no time, just imagining what his cock would be like. Then I had this experience. There was this boy, Gordon. He was a good-looking guy, and had a great sense of humor, and we were attracted to one another the first time we met. And, of course, he had a largish nose and really great bulge. I'd had two or three affairs by this time, though by some quirk of fate never with a boy with a big nose, though I couldn't complain about their cocks. "When it became obvious that Gordon wanted to lay me, I got really excited. Now I was going to find out what a really large cock could do to a gal. I didn't need a second invitation to go to his place. He didn't make a pass at me at once, and we sat on the sofa and drank bourbon and listened to CDs. After the second drink, he made a start. I was already turned on in anticipation and began touching him up, too. Just as I was going to unzip his fly, he excused himself to go to the bathroom. When he came back, I went straight for his fly. When I put my hand in, I was puzzled. His cock was so small I could hardly feel it, though it was stiff. I realized then, why he'd gone to the bathroom. That promising bulge must have mostly been padding. I hadn't thought guys would play such a trick, and for a moment it quite turned me off. But I wasn't turned off for long, because he obviously knew what pleased women, and when we eventually got down to it, that little cock did things to me that the bigger ones hadn't. "But the incident put me off noses! They don't turn me on any more. Now I go for really small, tight asses. It's fantastic what the feel of them does for me if I put my hands on them after a guy who's fucking me has come inside me. They get wonderful hollows in the side of the ass cheeks. Sometimes a guy will let me fix up mirrors, or do it in front of a mirror so that I can see his ass and the dimples while we're fucking. I just love that - it makes me so horny I come in a few minutes....!" Women who are sexually aroused by physical appearance, admit to being physically turned on by "a bulge in the trousers," may react more sexually to the naked male in the same way that the male is sexually aroused by the sight of the nude female. However, one idea is that men are more sexually aroused by a scantily clad woman, because they have to imagine what the hidden parts look like and so have to bring their minds into play. So women may be aroused by a limp penis and the man not sexually aroused, but the sight of a rampant penis, the indisputable sign that a man is sexually aroused, and in a situation that is already a sexual one, the nearness of an aroused man must be arousing to a woman. Fourteen out of the 45 women in this brief survey are not turned on at all by the nude male body either with or without an erection. The remaining 31 are, with qualifications. Here is a typical selection of what they say. Susan is nineteen, American, and lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts. "Yes! What turns me on is helping my partner undress before intercourse. When I see how erect his penis is when I slowly slip his clothes off makes me get ready for the next step. It's really about the same if he hasn't an erection yet, because I know that his penis won't stay limp for long." Madge is seventeen, and lives in Birmingham, England. "A naked male body only excites me occasionally, and there must be an erection." Barbara, of Kansas City, is twenty-eight, and has been married ten years. "Yes, I'm always excited by a nude partner provided he has an erection." Frances is thirty-six, twice married, and now again divorced; she lives in Denver, Colorado. She at last believes she has found her ideal man, who is not an American. She is very much in love with him. "As for naked male partners - he's the only one I can bear naked. He usually has an erection when he is naked. Sometimes I wish I could sexually arouse him, because I think my boyfriend may be unable to ejaculate during intercourse. This happened only once - when I knew he had to awaken early, and I awoke before him and gave him oral sex. But he is so aggressive that he prefers to do all the initiating, and I accept that." Edith, who lives in Edinburgh, Scotland, is twenty-six, and married, just declared succinctly, "BOTH!" Bessie of San Francisco, California, who is twenty-nine and very happily married, was almost equally terse, with "Both - I like to see it both ways." Marilyn is thirty-one, married, and lives in Richmond, Virginia. She says, "It makes no difference whether my nude lover has an erection or not, he still excites me. If he has an erection, it makes me feel good that I contributed to making it that way. If it is not erect, it is a challenge for me to arouse him so that it will be erect." Of the 153 who are turned on by physical appearances, 14 are not aroused by the naked male with or without an erection. 13 are turned on without erection, 36 by erection only, and 90 by both. Here are some typical remarks. "A naked male partner by all means, but not just any naked male partner. He has to be my choice and no erection necessary for me to be aroused, but if it's there it's wonderful." (American, forty-six, single.) "A naked male partner with or without erection - yes! If he has an erection, I'm aroused because it's for me. If he hasn't an erection yet, I know I'll soon have things well in hand - or mouth - and he'll soon be erect. Either way it's sexy." (American, twenty nine, single.) "Both. The naked male is beautiful with or without an erection. Men are beautiful clothed, partially nude-any way, men are great!" (American, twenty-two, single.) "A naked male partner with or without erection, if he is walking around. Are women aroused by an erect penis? Hell, yes! His nodding erection is particularly exciting when he walks." (British, twenty four, married.) "A naked male, with or without erection, if he has a good body, is very stimulating. With an erection even more so, as it makes me want to handle him. Without an erection I feel more tender, wanting to kiss and caress his balls and limp penis, and the rest of his anatomy." (British, twenty-six, single, permanent relationship with man of thirty-eight, no wish to be married.) "Yes, a naked male partner with or without erection as long as sex is intended. In some cases a sleeping naked partner." (American, thirty-five, single.) I am aroused by seeing a man naked if he fits my image of a 'sexy' man. I get even more aroused if he does not know I can see him. Seeing him with an erection is even better if it's strong and good-sized. It is very disappointing, and off-turning, to see a sexy man who turns out to have an erection that is weak or small. Watching a man get an erection is best of all, especially if I am the cause of it. When I am with a man and he is nude and he does not have an erection yet, I get aroused by watching his penis bounce around and wiggle as he moves." (American, thirty, divorced.) I used to think that nice girls did not like to see a naked male. Because of that I was past twenty-one years old before I ever saw a naked man. Now I become very aroused if I see a naked man whether or not he has an erection, but I am always curious to see what his penis looks like when erect. Another thing that arouses me sexually is watching a man as his penis becomes erect. The process of erection arouses me as much as seeing the final result of the process." (American, forty-six, heading for divorce.) "What really arouses me is watching his penis become erect. I especially like it if he is uncircumcised because I get very aroused by watching the head of his penis emerge from the foreskin." (American, twenty-six, single.) "My male looks great with or without an erection, but nothing arouses me so quickly as the sight of him with a rock hard erection pointing to his chin." (Canadian, twenty-three, married.) "I only get turned on by seeing an erection if the penis is quite thin and the guy has nice balls." (English, sixteen, single.) "Naked males definitely turn me on and I'd like to see more of them especially with erections. However, I couldn't imagine getting anything out of a male strip tease. Maybe this is because the appeal of a female stripper lies largely in the fact that she is not easily accessible, at least in theory, and this does not apply to men. Also, I can't imagine anything funnier than men dancing about on stage with their penises flopping about." (British, twenty seven, single.) "Naked male partner with erection. I go to a mixed sauna and nudity is quite natural and unsexy there." (British, twenty-four, married.) "When I play around with a boy, we aren't always naked. I've only been with a completely naked boy a few times. It turns me on a whole bunch to see and feel a boy when he's naked. Or even part naked. Most of all when his cock is big and hard. I get really turned on if he has a real big cock. I can't wait to tell my girlfriends about it." (American, sixteen, single.) "One of the most arousing sights to me is that of my partner naked standing up with a massive erection, or even more than that, I love to get them to wank in front of me. Then when they're nearly coming, I'll suck them. (Makes my insides go all a-tremble just writing about it! Phew!)" (British, nineteen, single.) "A naked male without an erection. For me its being innocent, easier and more fun to play with and kiss. I like to be able to bring him to an erection when I want it. Even my own husband scares me sometimes when getting undressed and I see he is already erect. My feelings, I'm sure, stem from the fact that going to work late at night on the bus, men would expose themselves fully erect, waiting for my reaction. To me it was disgusting not exciting. When I bring my husband to erection by playing with him, everything has a different tone." (American, twenty-two, married.) These replies, as you see, vary in emphasis on the arousal potential of the erect penis, but there is definite admission that even when flaccid, a penis has a stimulating effect: this is usually because the woman has the power to bring it to erection, and that when it is erect, it is erect for her. The average uninhibited woman does react readily to visual stimuli providing her personal standards of male "sexiness" are complied with. But this twenty-three-year-old, single, American university student should have the last word, because as she has perceived it is not quite so white and black as the statements may have seemed to imply. "This is by far the most difficult of your questions for me to answer. [She is Jan, by the way, who has fucked 70 men.] I neither know where to begin nor how to sort out my feelings. Further, as I understood the question, it is not limited to any one sense (i.e. sight) but may include any or all. I wonder also, how literally I should take the use of the word 'partner' as opposed to 'man' in the question. The best I can do is hope to abandon logic and accurately give my feelings. In my experience most men have some sort of hang-up (or need reassurance) on two factors - penis size and circumcision. Men that I have known have apologized for, sought assurance about, lamented over every possible combination of these two factors. To the best of my knowledge I have never said anything that would heighten the insecurity of the partner. I believe most men take these factors in terms of 'yes or no,' 'black or white.' I, on the other hand, do not think that many women think about penis size in such absolute terms. This is my objective consideration, now to the substantive elements. "The naked male is always interesting but I doubt if I could ever be aroused by the sight of a naked male that I had not already fallen for. [This is the general consensus.] Once while studying with a male friend in a house of college students, a good-looking but quite drunk guy appeared in a jockstrap, and was bragging that his organ was enough to scare any girl. He proceeded to lay it upon the table in front of me. Granted that it was a perfect cock, but it did not arouse me, and I was not more tempted, to have a fuck than if he had not done it. That having been said, I must confess that I look forward to and enjoy the sight of a naked partner and his erect cock. But I do not believe the naked male is erotic in the way many men think they are. I find the sight of a naked male much more arousing when it is the first time I have seen that man in the nude. After the first time sight plays a lesser role in arousal. The sight of some naked male partners has sexually aroused and excited me greatly, while there were some that affected me little. "If I had my choice, I would always prefer to see my partner for the first time without an erection than with one. A good looking partner with a well-equipped non-erect cock is a joy to see for the first time. It is very arousing to watch or help it go from soft to hard. A small penis is not exciting to look at. I prefer a circumcised penis for sex and I find a circumcised penis is always erotic to look at, but I admit that some uncircumcised penises can be very beautiful. "A well-formed uncircumcised organ in which the skin covers the head has an innocent look, and a certain mystery or mystique about it. It makes me want to feel it and play with it and expose the head. On the other hand, some uncircumcised penises can be very unstimulating to sight, especially if the skin is swollen or too tight to do anything with. I find that even though a perfect uncircumcised penis can have a special attraction at first, this feeling of special attraction tends to disappear on subsequent occasions. I have found myself hoping at times that a given boy would have a large, uncircumcised penis, and at times when it was so I felt it was a special treat. My present partner falls into that category, but the attraction has worn off. Finally, I always find it arousing to caress a penis into erection. With erection, a penis is always arousing to the feel, but less arousing to the sight. Certainly much more useful than a soft penis, but much less beautiful to look at. I always feel a bit cheated if the penis is erect the first time I behold it."
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