| What Turns Women On! Some Research Into What Attracts Women Sexually In Men This material is the product of research into 200 women, who responded to a questionnaire about what they find attractive in men....The main groups of responses were (click on the link to go to that section):
Personal Qualities Which Women Find Arousing A selection of 130 women's preferences, of what attracts men, results provided so men know that they can't hope to make their way between (most) women's legs simply by waving their cocks about. Susi, the married English girl, put this point well. "The way he comes on. I hate pushy men. I like the men who let me know they want me, but yet don't push anything unless I give them some indication I want them to." Doreen, the English girl who regards sex as "the best thing since sliced bread," put it even better. "The subtle blend of power and gentleness. The turned on guy who has an erection and hits you over the head with it makes me almost cold and angry. The guy who wants you badly but is controlling it until it's killing him in order to oh-so-gently arouse you, will have me melting." Most women want more than crude sexual satisfaction, as do most men, once they've established a regular relationship and have worked through the physical phase. It is this that adds to my often repeated contention that if you want to get the most out of sex, you must use physical lovemaking to express the emotional love (respect, affection) you have for one another. My male readers need not be apprehensive; the qualities most women demand are well within the scope of the man who has any self-respect, though there are a few that are distinctive to one or two women. For example, Charlotte of London, England: "A man's appearance does not necessarily arouse me sexually, although I find a sensual mouth extremely sexy. But I will really go for him if he has a good sense of humor and a good male smell." Many women have the same requirements as Chrissy of Boston, Massachusetts, who at eighteen says she is "fairly well sexually educated and experienced." She says, "I guess the kiss fits in here. I hate slobbering, preferring gentle sucking. I like to be appreciated and have this demonstrated. I like to be held and kissed and touched and smiled at often. These all rouse me tremendously." Nancy twenty-nine who lives in Washington, D.C., has much the same ideas. "Appearance is certainly part of the attraction; however, a gentle, warm and patient male has a great chance of turning me on, even if he's not my 'sexy' type." Iris, a Toronto call girl, has similar requirements. "Bill has all of the other qualities I find appealing. He is gentle, game for anything, unafraid to express love verbally as well as physically, he is clean and unselfish. He is understanding and strong but sensitive. He is without doubt a highly skilled lover." Phyllis, from Washington, D.C., requires her lover to be "obviously intelligent, and intensely interested in his career, regardless of what it is," but Marion of London, England, is more easily satisfied. She says briefly, "He must have a good accent." Linda, of Oxford, England, is sure that there is often a chemical attraction which is irresistible. "Sometimes," she says, "a man can pass me, or sit next to me in a bus, he can be eighteen or forty-eight, but something passes between us, and this tends to be mutual, as I've discovered when very occasionally I've met them again and asked. Even if I look up and find the man's appearance would be normally repulsive to me, the feeling still lasts - a tightness in my chest and feelings of general sexual excitement. I believe this is a chemical attraction, or it may be a sexual smell." Many other women want what Georgie of San Francisco wants. "Courteousness, kindness to animals, open-mindedness, sure of his sexuality, one who admits his faults, and who can stimulate my mind to fantasy." Jeanne, the American airline stewardess, "Physical appearance is really very unimportant to me. I would certainly never sleep with a man because of his looks. I like men I can talk to, I can find men who want to share much of themselves with me, and who enjoy having me do the same. It is with these men - and only with these - that I share sex." Anita, the American college student, wants "vivacity, warmth and kindness (warmth and kindness turn me on like nothing else), highly intelligent, good conversationalist, good sense of humor, amiability, love of having a good time." Margaret, of Cambridge, England, likes her man to be "mildly arrogant and aggressive, thoughtful and gentle-like father." Joanne, an English girl of twenty-four, claims that "appearance does matter initially, but of course I can love a man once I know him, even though he is not good-looking. But he must be gentle, firm, and tactful." Jeanette, twenty-two, married, living in Wilmington, North Carolina, is most turned on by a strong, masculine voice, so long as "he is capable of being tender and gentle when needed." Susan, nineteen, American, has already discovered that "one male quality that turns me on is the way a man shows he really cares. I Eke when he builds me up before having intercourse. Some men just don't really care about the woman, they only care about their erection and orgasm." Edith, who lives in Scotland, likes "meeting a man for the first time, having extra pressure in the handshake, accompanied by a lingering, meaningful look. A man who removes my coat as if he were removing my dress. A man who dances with me as if I were an extension of his body." Marilyn, from Richmond, Virginia, who finds that "the physical appearance is not the `thing' that turns me on, but the manner in which a man reacts to me as an individual," wants her ideal "sexy" man to have "penetrating and "interested" eyes, the ability to make a woman feel she is something special, gentleness and tenderness, which, incidentally, does not emasculate him in the average woman's eyes, and a slightly mysterious quality." Cassandra, from San Diego, California, who is deeply in love with her partner, is more embracing in her requirements, which, happily, she has found in her lover. "His passion, not just for lovemaking but for everything he cares about - politics, his family, his job, me, whatever. His personal honor, pride, integrity. I'm proud of his reactions and responses. A fine, brave man." Is Peggy, of Chicago, Illinois, wanting much the same thing? She is twenty-nine, and claims to be a liberated woman. " 'Love' is not essential to my screwing a man. I feel affection and desire is all that is necessary. I am not anorgasmic, though I do not climax every time by all means. This depends on my mood and current man." But can she be as "liberated" as she thinks? She goes on, "A man's 'manliness' is a sure-fire way to sexually arouse me. I like a man who exudes an aura of self-confidence and masculinity (not conceit or brutality). I like a man who takes charge and is somewhat domineering. I can't stand prissy, delicate, gentle types who defer constantly to my wishes." Marie of Torrance, California, says, "I like my partner to let me know that he's really freaking out as a result of what I'm doing to him. There are some men who are very accomplished lovers, I mean they know every trick of the trade, they really do, and can turn you on until you're wild for them to come in you. But all the while they're doing they never say a word, and never make a sound, and they come in you and fuck away and then suddenly stop and you know they've come, and you'd never know it from the lack of noise they make! "I've had quite a lot of experience with men, as I'm sure you'll have guessed by this time, but not one of them has been so sensitive as Gary. The whole of his skin is a sensitive zone. It doesn't matter where you touch him, he responds. And how he responds! There are two or three spots more sensitive than others, just inside the opening in his cock, just above the bottom of his cock on the underside, and a special spot on his right thigh about level with his balls. Heavy caresses don't do anything to him at all, but the lighter you can run your finger tips or your tongue over him, the wilder he responds. He writhes and squirms, throws back his head and bares his teeth and his cock sometimes jumps out of my hand, and all the time he's moaning. As I say, he's noisy and he's never still, and when he comes you think there's an earthquake. When I've been fucking him, I usually end up with me kneeling astride him, which is a position I really like. Just as the first spurt is coming, he throws back his head and rolls it from side to side, and shouts "Ah" at the top of his voice, and arches his back so much that I'm sure I could crawl under him. The first time this happened he took me by surprise so much that he threw me right off his cock, and I couldn't get back in again until he'd finished spurting. It happened again the second time, but now I've learned to read the signs, and ride him like a steer. You can guess the effect all this has on me. It makes me feel really great, because I'm doing this to him. I'm making him cry out, and squirm and roll about, and it's his showing his appreciation in this way that turns me on, and I orgasm at the slightest touch, and sometimes without being touched at all. Now he really knows how to give a woman an orgasm as well! For sheer sexual pleasure, I cannot resist Jan, the girl of the seventy lovers. "A male quality which arouses me intensely is the intense desire, longing, or burning that guys can experience and communicate to me when they are in need of sex. I know I am expressing this badly. I believe at the very beginning of a date I can intuit a great deal about the sexual needs of a guy. Some would simply like to have sex with me for the experience, pleasure, and adding a new conquest to their list. This situation does not arouse me, so if I do have sex with him it is because of other factors. Others may feel a great need, and they communicate this feeling to me even if they may be shy or afraid of requesting a sexual relationship. This situation arouses me sexually and I prefer it that way. I like the feeling that a guy is burning for me. It gives me a feeling of power and it makes me feel good. Further, I find a boy in that state more grateful and will do anything possible to please me. Some will actually beg for sex, and this arouses me. I remember a boy at the university just begging to get his hands in my pants. It sexually aroused me. I remember a Spanish boy about nineteen, who shared a compartment with me in a train and then a lay-over stop for several hours, waiting for the next train. We took a walk through the town (it was night) and never having had sex before, he begged for the smallest favors. This aroused me fantastically and he was grateful. I had a feeling of great power and I enjoyed sex with him very much. I love finding new ways for a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse. In short, even though I really want sex with a boy, I prefer it to appear he wants it with me more than I do with him. The more he burns for it and begs, the more I am sexually aroused."
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